Dating Coaching in Brighton, UK & Online

Date with greater confidence, clarity and intention

Move beyond dating anxiety, old relationship patterns and self-doubt, and approach dating with a stronger sense of who you are and what you’re looking for

Dating can be exciting, but it can also feel confusing, exhausting and emotionally draining.

Perhaps you find yourself overthinking messages, worrying about whether someone likes you, losing sight of what you need, or wondering why the same patterns keep repeating.

Whether you're returning to dating after a break-up, navigating it again after years in a relationship, or simply wanting to approach dating differently, coaching can help you understand what's happening beneath the surface and feel more grounded in the choices you make.

Does this sound familiar?

Perhaps you...

  • Feel anxious or insecure when you really like someone

  • Overthink texts, dates or mixed signals

  • Find yourself drawn to emotionally unavailable people

  • Lose sight of your own needs when you're in a relationship

  • Struggle to trust your instincts or judgement

  • Find dating exhausting or disheartening

  • Worry about rejection or ending up alone

  • Notice the same patterns repeating, despite wanting something different

Many of the challenges we experience whilst dating don't begin with the people we meet. They often begin with the way we see ourselves, the stories we've come to believe, and the relationship patterns we've developed over time.

The Heart, Mind & Love™ Framework

Healthy dating isn't simply about following your heart.

Nor is it about analysing every interaction or trying to avoid getting hurt.

It's about bringing your heart and your mind together so you can create the kind of love you're genuinely looking for.

My Heart, Mind & Love™ framework helps you understand yourself more deeply, recognise the patterns influencing your dating experiences, and become more intentional in how you approach relationships.

By understanding what's happening within you, you can respond differently to fear and uncertainty, trust yourself more, and make choices based on what you genuinely want and need.

A thoughtful, practical approach to dating with greater confidence, clarity and intention.

Imagine dating feeling more like this...

Overthinking → Self-trust

Uncertainty → Clarity

Reacting → Responding

Seeking reassurance → Feeling more secure

Automatic patterns → Intentional choices

Feeling powerless → Feeling capable

Dating to be chosen → Choosing what's right for you

Over-adapting → Staying true to yourself

“I now feel much lighter, with a clearer plan and a far more positive outlook on dating.”

- Katie, London

I feel transformed, and it’s given me such a sense of self that I haven’t felt in a long time. I now feel confident to re-enter the dating world!

- Lauren S, Brighton & Hove

I take a thoughtful, therapeutic approach to dating coaching, creating a calm and supportive space to understand what's happening beneath the surface, alongside practical ways to help you move forward

Our sessions will be shaped around you, what you're experiencing and what you want to change.

We'll make sense of what's been happening, explore the patterns, beliefs or fears that may be influencing your dating life, and get clearer on what you want and need from a relationship.

Alongside that understanding, we'll identify practical ways to help you approach dating differently - whether that's managing overthinking, communicating your needs, setting boundaries, trusting your judgement or making more intentional choices.

I'll usually follow up with a short email containing key reflections and, where appropriate, simple prompts or exercises to help you put what we're exploring into practice between sessions.

Ready to approach dating differently?

You don't need to feel completely confident, have worked out all your patterns or know exactly what you're looking for before you begin.

If you'd like to feel more grounded in yourself, understand what's been getting in the way and approach dating in a way that feels healthier and more like you, we can start there.

“Dating changes when the question shifts from ‘Do they want me?’ to ‘Is this right for me?’ ”

Not sure where to start?

You don’t need to know exactly what kind of support you need before getting in touch. If you have a question about coaching, your situation or whether I might be the right person to help, you’re very welcome to send me a message.

Have a question? Send me a message using the form below and I'll come back to you personally.

  • "I now feel much lighter, with a clearer plan and a far more positive outlook on dating."

    Nicole helped me work through a period where I was feeling really low about dating. I’d reached a point where it all felt quite hopeless and discouraging, but having the space to talk things through with her made a real difference. Through her journaling and introspection methods, I was able to reflect more clearly on my experiences and feelings. As a result, I now feel much lighter, with a clearer plan and a far more positive outlook on dating.

    Nicole is a genuinely lovely person and incredibly easy to talk to. She made me feel comfortable very quickly, which made it much easier to open up. Having that supportive space to explore things honestly was invaluable.

    ~ Katie, London, UK

  • "More than just dating advice. Practical support that made a real difference""

    After watching MAFS and Celebs Go Dating (yes, I know!), I started thinking more seriously about my own fears around dating and relationships. I knew I needed more than chats with friends if I was going to make lasting changes, and I'm so grateful I found Nicole.

    From our first phone call, I knew I'd found someone I could talk to openly. Nicole created a space where I felt listened to, understood and completely free from judgement. She helped me understand myself on a much deeper level, while giving me practical tools and worksheets to continue making progress between sessions.

    Looking back, I can clearly see how far I've come. Although I'm not currently having sessions, I know Nicole is there if I ever need her again, and I wouldn't hesitate to recommend her.

    ~ Sass, East Sussex, UK

  • "Nicole has helped me massively with avoidant attachment, confidence, and leaning into my values"

    Nicole has helped me massively through various life transitions, particularly around an avoidant attachment style, building confidence, and leaning into my values. I still use the tools I learnt through Nicole to support me in making positive changes in my life and to remind myself of my values and what’s important to me.

    Nicole is a warm and positive presence who kept me accountable and focused on making the changes that were important to me. I think it’s difficult to find a good coach in today’s world, where it seems everyone is wearing that hat, but Nicole is brilliant and I would highly recommend her.

    - Lorna, Hove, UK

  • "Nicole has given me invaluable tools to help me navigate dating patterns, relationships and my negative self-belief"

    Nicole is open, friendly and easy to talk to.

    Throughout my sessions, Nicole has listened and has given me some invaluable tools to help me navigate dating patterns, relationships and my negative self-belief.

    I feel much more positive moving forward into this year knowing I have resources to guide me.

    ~ Kate, Lewes, UK

  • “ Whether you’ve suffered recent heartbreak, need support in a new relationship, have family issues or feel lost in yourself, I can wholeheartedly recommend working with Nicole ”

    Over three months, she’s helped me break free from repeated dating and relationship patterns, rebuild my self-esteem, and develop tools to navigate situations that once left me stressed and anxious.

    Her thoughtful guidance and practical techniques, like journaling and affirmations, have been transformative. I now feel assured, worthy, and ready to take on the future. Nicole is patient, kind, and truly dedicated to your growth.

    Thank you, Nicole. I couldn’t have done it without you!

    - Lauren S, Brighton & Hove, Sussex, UK

  • " One of the greatest things — no matter how bad you think some of your behaviours are, she won’t judge you — just gently help you through it! "

    Nicole has been nothing but amazing and caring from the get-go! We’ve only had a couple of sessions so far, but the way she phrases questions and the tasks she gives you (very quickly after the session) are fantastic. I used to coach as well, so I have very high expectations — and Nicole met them all.

    I’m so excited for this journey together and I know the outcomes will only be great. One of the greatest things is that no matter how bad you think some of your behaviours are, she won’t judge you. She will gently help you through it, so don’t be scared to share your worst sides as well.

    Thank you, Nicole! ♥️

    - Clara, Hamburg, Germany

  • “ I needed help with dating and understanding more about my attachment style, which I didn’t want to let get in the way of my relationships anymore ”

    From the start, she reassured me that change was possible, which gave me confidence and positivity. Nicole’s warm and welcoming approach made me feel comfortable right away.

    Working with her has helped me boost my self-esteem and gain a positive image of myself. Her guided visualisations during our sessions were incredibly healing and transformative. The homework she set allowed me to continue working on myself between sessions, making the process even more effective.

    This journey with Nicole has been incredible, and I’m so grateful for her support.

    - Poppy S, Brighton

  • "She helped me uncover what was blocking me and allowed me to view my situation from a fresh perspective"

    Nicole’s coaching support enabled me to feel more at peace in my life. She helped me uncover what was blocking me and allowed me to view my situation from a fresh perspective.

    I felt very at ease and connected to her right from the start. Her session summaries were super helpful and I left the process feeling very equipped with tools and insights to keep going with what I had learnt in our sessions.

    Nicole held the space for me in a very compassionate and empathetic way. I would recommend her to others seeking out this type of support.

    ~ Rebecca K, UK

  • " She has helped me gain deep insights into my relationships, attachment style, and personal growth in ways I never could have on my own "

    Working with Nicole has been an incredible experience. She has helped me gain deep insights into my relationships, attachment style, and personal growth in ways I never could have on my own. Her guidance has been invaluable in understanding and overcoming challenges, allowing me to grow into a better version of myself. I truly appreciate her support, wisdom, and compassionate approach. I highly recommend her to anyone seeking clarity and growth in their relationships and self-understanding!

    - Jeremy S, West Sussex

  • “ I broke my repeating patterns and healed my attachment injury, enabling me to move forward with confidence ”

    Nicole effortlessly helped me uncover the root cause of my relationship issues by giving me the space to focus on myself. Through her compassionate approach, I identified my repeating patterns and healed my attachment injury, enabling me to move forward with confidence. I now understand my triggers and have clear strategies to respond consciously.

    What I appreciated most was her holistic approach, looking not only at my relationship but at my entire life. I now have a deeper understanding of who I am, what I want, and how to express myself better.

    I’ve already recommended Nicole to my friends, and she’ll be my first call for future challenges.

    - S Bishop, Brighton

  • " I can proudly say that I’ve healed from my past relationship and am ready to move forward, feeling more confident and ready to navigate the dating world ”

    I went to Nicole after a break-up as I wanted to understand myself better and close the chapter on my relationship. I was confused by why it hadn’t worked for me, and wanted to put my past behind me so I could be ready for whatever came next. Nicole was warm, welcoming and I found it very easy to connect with her. She listened, was empathetic and helped me navigate through the confusion, anxiety and insecurities I was facing. She introduced many useful strategies such as reframes, which I still use today. These were all easy to implement into my daily life and helped me rationalise and deal with any unhelpful thoughts.

    - Stephanie P, Brighton & Hove, Sussex, UK

  • "A Safe Space to Be Myself."

    I enjoyed my regular sessions with Nicole.

    She provided a safe and confidential space for me to open up and be myself.

    I fully recommend if you are looking for encouragement, support and an amazing listener in your life.

    ~ Chris, Brighton, UK

  • “ Nicole helped me to deal with my emotions and anxiety better and gave me the confidence I need to have a lasting relationship ”

    Nicole was excellent in her work and was super helpful in guiding me through my self-doubt and the issues I needed to overcome in a gentle and nurturing way. She is great at spotting areas to work with the right tools to help work through problems.

    I’m far more confident in myself and have techniques to help me when I’m struggling. When I start a new relationship, I now know what would like from it and what I can offer to others.

    — Harry, Sussex, UK

  • “ Nicole helps you see the problems and solutions extremely clearly and calmly ”

    With Nicole’s help, I gained valuable insights into my relationships and life that have been hugely beneficial. Her approach is both practical and productive, yet she remains sympathetic and non-judgmental.

    Nicole created a relaxed and comfortable space, unpicking a potentially messy situation and clearly laying out the options and their benefits. What felt like a seamless, pleasant chat resulted in a profound understanding of how to balance my relationships, work, and free time.

    I was surprised by what I learned and the clarity it brought. Nicole is an exceptional coach, and I cannot recommend her enough.

    — Adam P. Sussex, UK

  • “ I feel stronger! And love and respect myself more! ”

    After a few relationship coaching sessions with Nicole, I'm transforming already. It's an incredible feeling!

    She's very warm, easy to talk to, encouraging and positive, but very professional. She helped me look at some areas from a different perspective and suggested some tools to use in difficult times.

    I feel stronger and love and respect myself more!

    — P Renin. Brighton, UK

  • “ I was at a crossroads and Nicole was able to help me gain clarity on my situation ”

    The sessions allowed me to work through what I want and need, and how to feel more confident.

    I felt comfortable opening up to her straight away. I'm now able to express myself to my partner and we understand each other better.

    — Susie B. Sydney, Australia